Confucius once said, “Life is really simple, but we insist on making it complicated.”
Most of us complain how difficult and complicated life is, not realising that we are the guilty ones. We’re the ones making our lives harder. Part of all the work, duties and chores we have to deal with on a daily basis, we tend to make even more complicated, with our minds becoming gradually disillusioned by negative external influences. We hesitate and question our instincts, we’re afraid of stumbling and falling down when a new obstacle arises. Life is becoming harder and harder, and the only thing we’re doing is losing touch with who we really are and what we really need. Acknowledging the main reasons why you’re making your life harder than it has to be will be your first step in simplifying things and living a happier life.
1)You look to everyone else for the answers only you can give yourself. – For much of our lives – especially at the beginning – we get told what do, how to think, what looks good, what “success” is, etc. You don’t have to buy into any of it anymore. Feel free to peel back the layers. Think for yourself. Listen to your Self. Break the mold. When you stop doing what everybody else wants you to do and start following your own intuition, you will find exactly what you are looking for.
2)You let others make you feel guilty for living your life. – As long as you’re not hurting anyone else, keep living your life YOUR way. Sometimes we get lost in trying to live for someone else, trying to meet their expectations, and doing things just to impress them. Take a moment and think about it. Are you doing things because you truly believe in them? Remember your own goals. Live, do and love so that you are happy, because when it comes down to it, relationships can end in an instant, but you will live with yourself for the rest of your life.
3)You care a big deal about what others think. – People are talking behind your back? Don’t worry about that – worry about the moment they stop. There will always be people who like you and people who don’t; that’s just how life works. The sooner you realise that and stop caring about it, the sooner you’ll be happier and have better control over your life.
4)Waiting for a sign . – Unfortunately, many people are waiting for a sign from God, or some other spiritual being, before deciding to make a decision or important move in their lives. Take your life in your own hands, find a way to make the most out of your life, because it is better to help shape fate than by being governed by it.
5)You are part of the drama circle. – How would your life be different if you walked away from drama, gossip and verbal defamation? Let today be the day you speak only about the good you know of other people and encourage others to do the same. Those that refuse to support you CAN be ignored by you. It’s as simple as that. Incredible things happen when you distance yourself from negativity and those who create it. Don’t get caught up in drama. Just walk on by.
6)You put off making decisions. – Bad decisions are almost always better than no decisions at all. Indecisiveness just delays, while bad decisions teach us to yield better ones. In the end, we most often regret the chances we didn’t take, the relationships we were afraid to have, and the decisions we waited too long to make.
7)You expect life to always be happy . – The world is a cruel place and full of suffering, heartbreaks, and loss. These things can affect your happiness, but you should not lose hope. Also having unrealistic expectations will make you end up disappointed. This doesn’t mean you should set the bar low – you should still have high standards for yourself and how others treat you, but there’s always a line where those high standards become excessive.
8)You are stuck on your mistakes. – It’s important that we forgive ourselves for making mistakes. We need to learn from our errors and move forward. Make a pact with yourself today to not be defined by your past. Sometimes the greatest thing to come out of all your hard work isn’t what you get for it, but what you learn from it. A happy, successful life, after all, is not a life absent of problems, but one that’s been able to rise above them.
9)You focus on every point in time other than now. – You can’t change yesterday, but you can ruin today by worrying about tomorrow. Be present. Tomorrow will reveal itself exactly as it should, just as yesterday already has.